A song for you.

From me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XYlam1OyXSA&feature=related

Sort of sad, but right now you need to know that you're loved.

Love yourself.

Hold on to who you are.
Learn more about yourself.

You're going to have more free time.

Fill it up.

When you're with someone for so long, you forget who you are without them.
How to function without them.
How to live without them.

This is why you have to depend on other people during this time.

And this is why you have to remember to love yourself.

It's worth it.

The time you spent together was not a waste.
It built you as a person, and gave you experiences that you needed, and that will serve you in the future.

It was worth it, but you won't really get it until you're on the other side of your pain.

Trust me on this one.

There are more.

You have not run out of love, or sex appeal.

Just remember this, beautiful girl.

You need too, trust.

One night stands are GOOD.

Put his stuff away!

Box it all up before he's gone.
Hide the photos on Facebook. Untag, untag, untag.
You may want to delete him until you can breathe again.

Cut contact.

You can integrate it back into your life after you've reached a certain point.

Take care of yourself.

Shower. Eat. Exercise.

You need those things more than ever right now. Promise.
Because you're going to feel disgusting and worthless.

It'll help.

Lean on people.

DO lean on people. On me, Kate, Tori, Ben.
We can handle it. We love you. It's what we're here for.
We're not going to judge you.

Don't be afraid to be needy. I was needy, and I should've leaned on people more. I needed the support, because even though I'm better, I still hurt. I'm still in a pain of sorts.

Call us late at night when you're about to burst, or already have.
Keep me locked in your house.

It's okay to be weak sometimes.
Now is one of those times.

Cry.

Sarah fucking Byrn.
I know you don't cry, that you bottle things up, but you can't right now.
Because it's going to come out sooner or later. And believe me. Sooner is better than later. Don't wait to cry at night, because if you bottle it up all day you'll burst at night and that's horrible. It's dark, you're alone. Cry with people around. Cry to me, because at this point that's the only way to have a slightly positive cry, one that releases emotions. A lot of the crying you're going to do is just going to make you feel worse.
So cry, babe.

Now is the time to get angry.

It is really really okay to get angry.
To get pissed off.
I recommend yelling, screaming about the mistakes, the mess ups, hitting and punching things.
It's the only way to forgive yourself for the things you did wrong. You need to acknowledge them and remember that things he did wrong too.
Write a list as to why you're better off without him. You may not be able to do this though.
But when you can, do.
You'll need it some days.